January 25, 2005
Chance or Choice?
When we meet the right person to love, when we're
at
the right place at the right time, that's CHANCE.
When
you meet someone you're attracted to, that's not a
CHOICE. That's CHANCE. Being caught up in a
moment
(and there are a lot of couples who get together
because of this) is not a CHOICE. That's also a
CHANCE.
The difference is what happens afterwards. When
will
you take that infatuation, that crush, that
mind-blowing attraction to the next level? That's
when
all sanity goes back, you sit down and
contemplate
whether you want to make this into a concrete
relationship or just a fling.
If you decide to love a person, even with his faults,
that's not a CHANCE. That's CHOICE. When you
choose to
be with a person, no matter what, that's CHOICE.
Even
if you know there are many people out there who
are
more attractive, smarter, and richer than your
mate,
and yet, you decide to love your mate just the
same,
that's CHOICE.
Infatuation, crushes, and attraction come to us by
CHANCE. But true love that lasts is truly a
CHOICE. A
CHOICE that we make. Regarding soulmates,
there's a
beautiful movie quote that I believe is so true about
this: "Fate brings you together, but it's still up to
you to make it happen." I believe that soulmates
do
exist, that there is truly someone made for you.
But
it's still up to you to make the CHOICE if you're
going to do something about it or not.
We may meet our soulmates by CHANCE, but
loving and
staying with our soulmate is still a CHOICE we
have to
make. We came to the world not by finding
someone
perfect to love, BUT to learn how to love an
imperfect
person perfectly.
3:48 AM.
